It recently came-up in a conversation how this idea, "nobody makes me anything," (i.e., happy, sad, angry, behave in certain ways, etc.) is "completely impossible bullshit" (quote-unquote). And, in spite of having righteously claimed it many times, I have to admit that, upon further examination, the idea seems impossible. After all, how can anyone claim that "nobody makes me anything" when at the same time we are all "made" in Relationship with all otherness. Yet, to believe that the personal and impersonal otherness totally "makes" us who and how we are steps perilously close to the edge of predetermination. Such a belief threatens to absolve us of all personal responsibility for who and how we are in Relationship with all otherness. Then again, to believe that every behavior is purposeful and internally motivated seems to threaten us with too much personal responsibility for who and how we are in Relationship with all otherness.
Nonetheless, I still firmly believe that all behaviors are purposeful and internally motivated. When I say this, however, I don't mean that the purpose is always consciously ego-driven. For example, I love the story where a young man with a pregnant wife at home puts his own life at risk to physically restrain a drunken old homeless man from jumping off a bridge. When asked, "What on earth were you thinking?" he couldn't explain other than saying he felt his own Life was completely dependent on the Life of that homeless man. (Soon he would understand a similar feeling through parenthood.) In a single moment the young man's purposeful, internal motivation transcended ego-consciousness. I'm certain this happens all the time in military, disaster and other situations where the ego's wants and needs are overruled by deeper connections to all Life. These connections, I believe, are purposeful beyond one's usual awareness and internally motivated even though completely connected to the external experiences of otherness.
The critical understanding is that one is always consciously and unconsciously making purposeful and internally motivated responses to Life. My claim today is that those who understand the RESPONSE-ABILITY of being "made" in Life as well as "making" a Life are having a different experience of being alive than those who don't.
Nonetheless, I still firmly believe that all behaviors are purposeful and internally motivated. When I say this, however, I don't mean that the purpose is always consciously ego-driven. For example, I love the story where a young man with a pregnant wife at home puts his own life at risk to physically restrain a drunken old homeless man from jumping off a bridge. When asked, "What on earth were you thinking?" he couldn't explain other than saying he felt his own Life was completely dependent on the Life of that homeless man. (Soon he would understand a similar feeling through parenthood.) In a single moment the young man's purposeful, internal motivation transcended ego-consciousness. I'm certain this happens all the time in military, disaster and other situations where the ego's wants and needs are overruled by deeper connections to all Life. These connections, I believe, are purposeful beyond one's usual awareness and internally motivated even though completely connected to the external experiences of otherness.
The critical understanding is that one is always consciously and unconsciously making purposeful and internally motivated responses to Life. My claim today is that those who understand the RESPONSE-ABILITY of being "made" in Life as well as "making" a Life are having a different experience of being alive than those who don't.